The very first paragraph explains it already, For me at least. Men aren’t taught to think that when they go to a restroom, or any place really, to fear if someone is lurking around the corner. Men are not taught to only get gas for your car in the day time and if you absolutely have to get it at night to only go to a well lit place where there are people around.
MEN ARE NOT TAUGHT TO ONLY PULL OVER FOR POLICE IN A WELL LIT AREA AND TO EVEN FEAR THAT THE PERSON IN THE UNIFORM WILL RAPE THEM.
It is not paranoia. It is lessons learned and lessons passed down from experiences.
“What do they expect when they put men and women together?” ………. I have never been more stricken with nausea by a sentence before. Boys will be boys right? NO. Boys and girls will be what they are taught to be. Children are a product of their environment. That excuse is sad and lazy. That excuse means the people around the boy are prime examples of rape culture and perpetuate the problem generation by generation.
“They tell me I’m being confrontational” ….. You’re damn right I’m being confrontational. What else would you like me to do? Ignore it for the sake of how ego? I will speak up when I am sexually harassed anyway. I want your ego to be as small as your “package” for the way you have made me feel.
By this point I can’t even finish the article. I am disgusted and uncomfortable because every single one of these encounters I have experienced. I was raped when I was 14 years old. I have grown from it and am stronger and am one of the lucky survivors able to process what happened and speak on it. But moments like this make me shutter to my core. Reminders that these very things happen so regularly that I can recall more than one encounter for each incident. Even as a survivor your still scared and there is still damage to your core.
Tell me there is no rape culture when at the age of 14 I was blamed for trusting a man who was a close member of the family for my entire life.
Tell me there is no rape culture when men stop reading this far because the blatant statement that I was raped makes them feel uncomfortable.
Tell me there is no rape culture when while I am sitting at my desk in a professional job typing this I can feel a man looking at me. I removed my name tag because I could feel his eyes on me.
Tell me there is no rape culture. I will tell you my stories.